originally published on ylcf.org, March 2005
When a friend told me about Shaunti Feldhahn's book For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men, I didn't quite believe it could top my absolute favorite book on relating to men: Dr. Laura Schlessinger's Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. But after searching every book store in town to find For Women Only, I came home and read it in one sitting (well, almost--I had to stop for some "Old South Fudge" ice cream halfway through!). For Women Only needs a better cover, but that's my only complaint.
Inside the striped cover of For Women Only, I found a concise, encouraging message that motivated me to apply what I discovered in its pages. More succinct and less blunt, with scriptural principles instead of crass terms, For Women Only now tops Proper Care and Feeding on my list.
For Women Only is a must-read for every woman who has (or hopes to have) a man in her life. It is a book I will go back to time and again (along with the articles in this February's issue of Focus on the Family Magazine), for reminders on the best way to love, respect, and support my man. But I would still recommend Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands for additional guidance--you can't beat Dr. Laura's signature down-to-earth practicality. (Read my review of Dr. Laura's book here.)
Shaunti's book had two chapters that Dr. Laura's didn't. From Shaunti I learned about a man's visual Rolodex that he battles every day (which relates to what she and Dr. Laura both have to say about how important it is that we look good for our man). And her research revealed that men really do like romance, their definition of it just varies from ours sometimes.
For Women Only is written based on results from a survey Shaunti conducted of hundreds of men. The revelations of the survey astounded her, especially when she found out that they were the very things her husband had always wished she had known about him. After you read For Women Only, you will be thankful that Shaunti felt compelled to share her findings with the rest of us. The seven truths she shares will have a dramatic effect on your relationship with your man. The seven principles will guide you as you seek to better support, respect, and understand the men in your life.
For Women Only combines the wisdom of Dr. Emerson Eggerichs' book Love and Respect, with the sometimes startling truths of Stephen Arterburn's Every Man's Battle, and the wisdom of Dr. Laura's Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, for a wife's complete guidebook to loving and understanding her man.
It's For Women Only...and only every woman should read it.
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AND... once you have teen girls or almost teens. (We call them young adults)... there is a book like this for young ladies. I've read the grown up version, and she has read the younger version. It's a GREAT read. Very convicting at times... especially in the how to dress area. Realizing that it may be "their fault", but why antagonize that? Why not care and be sensitive to their weakness. It is a good read... I'll agree with you on this one!
I really enjoyed "For Women Only" It brought out some good points and was an easy read. I think more women should be conscious of how they dress and she brings that out in the book. Thanks for the post! and God bless!!!
My main complaint is that I liked the cover of "For Men Only" better.. I can't stand pink. And therefore I can't stand how anything that is designed for women has to be pink. Other than that, I thought the book had some solid, common sense advice.
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